Let me start this post by stating that I am not creating it to start an argument or to bring up controversy. It is honestly something I have wondered about and would love to hear different viewpoints, but will not tolerate fighting or name calling in comments. Everyone is entitled to their own parenting methods and points of view, but I have heard a lot in the news lately about parents using embarrassment as a form of punishment for children, particularly older ones. So, I was wondering what other’s take on this was?
Effective or Degrading?
I don’t think that there is a clear cut answer to this one. In some cases, I have heard of parents using this method of punishment in a way that I could see as potentially being effective. For instance, a Miami father made his child stand outside with a sign that read that he was in 7th grade, had received three failing grades and to honk if it was wrong. I could see this maybe being effective for a child where you have tried everything else to help them get back on track.
However, there is another side to this spectrum. A side where parents do things like shave their daughter’s head and make her run down the street in a diaper for bad grades. This is clearly degrading and way way over the top. Just as with any other punishment, I think there is a line that needs to be drawn and of course in some cases it will be crossed.
Public Versus Viral Punishment
There is also another aspect to consider. While you may agree with embarrassment in a public setting like on a local street corner, it is also okay when they punishment is blasted all over the Internet for everyone to see? Like the girl whose mom made her hold a sign up saying she had posed with liquor on her Facebook page and would be taking a break? Is exposing a child’s deeds to the judgment of the entire Internet population okay as well, or should it be limited to a smaller population? Of course, it was the child that first blasted pictures of themselves with liquor all over the same page online, but should the punishment follow the same guidelines?
Again, this post is simply out of interest on the subject. I have never tried using embarrassment as a form of punishment and do not know that I ever will. I am simply curious as to the different viewpoints. So, what do you think?