I wrote this post as a Similac Sisterhood of Motherhood partner, all opinions are my own.
Parenting is hard. Oh so hard. It seems as I move through the different phases and ages of motherhood, it only gets harder in some ways. I’ve felt judged for most of my days as a mother, not just by others, but by myself as well. For many of those years I have operated basically as a single mom, I know what it is like to have to bottle feed one baby after breast feeding two because you had to return to work after just one week home with your newborn and couldn’t pump no matter how hard you tried. I know what it is like to get pushed to the brink of screaming when your teenager with a behavioral disorder is pushing buttons. The truth is though, we all make mistakes, we are human it is allowed, and we all have different ways of parenting. We need to put down the figurative battle axes though and put effort into building each other up though, instead of tearing each other down with judgement.
I’ve done it. I’ll admit it. I have walked into a store or restaurant and have seen children running around, crawling on the floor and otherwise acting up, and I’ve judged. I am sure that seeing me arguing with my teenage son who has ODD, others have judged me as well. The truth is, I don’t know your story and you don’t know mine, but what is gained from judging other moms. Do you get a reward for doing it? Perhaps. Perhaps it makes you feel better about yourself as a parent? What does that say about us if our confidence as a parent is dependent on tearing other moms down?
What is the better solution? To look at a fellow mom with fresh eyes. Eyes that instead of looking for ways to judge, are looking for ways to bond or even help. That is exactly why Similac’s Sisterhood of Motherhood was started in January of this year. As a partner, I have shared information about this movement to help do away with mom judging and bring moms together in a community that can help them bond and get helpful advice from other moms without fear. The Sisterhood of Motherhood has teamed up with award-winning director Cynthia Wade to create the #EndMommyWars film.
The #EndMommyWars film follows a day in the lives of some very different new moms. Their parenting differences include working vs. stay at home, breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding and so much more. In the end, the film shows how these women are able to come together and bond as parents after taking the time to get to know each other’s stories. Check it out at http://similac.com/end-mommy-wars, I promise you won’t get through it without a few tears.
So, what do you say? Are you ready to take a chance to stand up for putting an end to judgement. Help to #EndMommyWars and spread the news today!