“What?” That was my exact reaction to the phrase listed in the title above, which was uttered from my 10 year old’s mouth as he got in the van from after school the other day. He proceeded to tell me about how they “made” him watch a video on puberty, periods and my absolute favorite, ejaculation. He went on about how there were pictures of body parts and talks about other things. Excuse my language, but when the hell did it become the school’s decision as to when my child should learn about sex and ejaculation?
I have no problem with parents who choose to teach their children about such things at an early age. I am a firm believer in every one’s right to parent their child in their own way.We have discussed things when the boys have had questions, but in a more general need-to-know kind of way. It isn’t that I am totally prude and refuse to acknowledge that these questions will come up. I choose a more conservative route in my house for many reasons.
- We live in a rural area. My child is always home and in my care so no worries of what he is doing.
- He has many younger siblings and with his ADHD, once he hooks onto something, everyone else in the house is going to know and learn about it.
- I feel no need to rush him into thinking about sex, rubbing his genitalia or any of the other suggestive things listed in the booklet the school gave him to bring home. It only encourages thoughts of these things.
Again, if you are a parent who chooses to discuss these things with your 10 year old, or even a younger child, then that is not a problem. It is your choice. I do not appreciate the school making that choice for me and the recurring questions that I now have to answer from my other children as young as 5! At the very least, there could have been a warning, a note of some kind sent home.
Why must a child know about sex at 10? I hear the “so they are prepared” suggestion all the time. Prepared for what? Intercourse at 10? Some say “they will go do it anyway.” Oh no they won’t! Mine won’t anyhow. I know where my son is at all times at this age. I am not naive though. When he is older and has more freedom, I will of course prepare him. Sex is not a dirty think and these talks have a time and place. That place is not school and the time is not now in my opinion and it should have been my decision as a parent!
I want to know what you all think? Has your school started teaching your 9 or 10 year old child about sex? Do you think that is an appropriate age? I myself would have been okay with a brief overview of puberty and mentioning things like hair growth and even growth of the genitalia, but I have no idea why sex, and rubbing, and wet dreams (oh my heart) had to be brought into their lives so young!