If you are a parent of a pre-teen or teenager then you have probably had your children say “But so and so are allowed to do such and such.” I hate it. I hate hearing those words or something similar come out of my oldest child’s mouth. What can you say to that? How do you continuously explain to your child that you are sorry, but those aren’t your children and you are the one responsible for them, not someone else’s parents. It has happened a lot this year and while I try to give Joshua freedom to move around a little, I am a very protective parent. The reality is, some parents aren’t. Unfortunately, how do you protect a child in a world where most of his friends can do and say whatever they like?
I know that my child knows what sex is. He is aware of some grown-up things and he of course has heard bad words before. That being said, I do not feel the need to just allow him to watch or listen to things with these topics in them just because he knows what they are. Apparently there are many parents who don’t agree. There are kids all over the middle school who are watching nudity, etc. on their phones, listening to music with expletives in it, leaving the campus in the morning to wander to nearby stores, watching adult-themed shows like Family Guy or Jeff Dunham.
Yes, I am aware my child is growing up, but does that mean I need to push him out the door? He isn’t going to go crazy when he turns 16 just because I wouldn’t let him watch Bella and Edward breaking the bed on their wedding night. He isn’t going to turn into a drug dealer because I wouldn’t let him leave the school campus to wander the streets with his friends. Some parents say that if you shelter them and don’t let them do all of these things, they will just act out more as they get older and I call bullshit. My son tells me all the things he comes across in school. Does it make me happy to hear some of it, no, but it does keep an open line of communication and allows me to explain to him why I don’t allow these things.
My children are far from perfect, as am I. I am not one to tell other parents what they should do, but it seems kids are growing up way way too fast these days. So, if you are a conservative parent, how do you deal with other parents allowing their children to do these things and your child asking why they can’t do them too?