As parents, we have all experienced the infamous tween attitude that our children develop the moment they realize that they now know everything there is to know in the world. My oldest has been developing his “mouth” for the last year or so, but it has finally fully matured as of his 10th birthday a week or so ago. Now, he says seemingly innocent statements with the venom of the most poisonous snake and when I confront him, he acts surprised and mentions that he didn’t say anything bad. Then I have to have an argument about how it wasn’t what he said but how he said it, which always results in my words floating over his head.
So, the other day, I finally discovered a way to deal with the infamous “mouth”of my tween. After screaming at me that I was “torturing him” for correcting something he did and that he “hates this day,” I quietly escorted him to his room without a word, told him to get in bed calmly and informed him that when dinner was ready I would give it to him in his bed.
When it was time for dinner, I placed the plate on his bed without a word and walked out. Right before sending the others to bed, I went in and said only “goodnight.” As I was leaving the room, he called out an apology for his actions and asked for a kiss (highly uncommon for a knowitall tween.)
The next day he was extra well behaved and we haven’t heard from the “mouth” lately. So, how do you deal with the infamous mouth of a pre-teen. In my house, we deal with it with calm quiet and it seems to work just fine. How do you deal with mouthiness from your pre-teen or teenager?