I’m Gonna Be An Oven!

 I promise, it is not at all what you think. Yes, I am always a little full of hot air. Sometimes, my steely stare can cook Matt or the kids right on the spot, but when I say I am going to be an oven, I mean it quite literally. I wrestled with the idea of waiting longer to post this on the blog, but I figured what fun is it if I have no one to share the experience with. I have decided to be a…….

Gestational Surrogate!

First I should probably explain for those not versed in surrogate lingo, that there are two types of surrogates. There are traditional surrogates who use their own eggs in the process and are then biologically linked to the child they carry for the parents to be (also known as Intended Parents or IPs.) Then, there are gestational surrogates. These are surrogates that simply have the embryos implanted into their uterus and are not biologically connected to the child at all. This is the type I am going to be.

Now that all that mumbo jumbo is out of the way, let’s talk about the fun part! For years I have thought about being a surrogate and have researched it thoroughly. I wanted to wait until things were settled here at home and all of the boys were school aged before moving forward. I loved being pregnant and now that I am done building my own family, I can’t think of any greater way to give back then to give the joy of parenthood to a couple that otherwise would not be able to experience having a child of their own.

I am happy to say that I am now matched with a wonderful set of IPs and I know that they are going to make wonderful parents. I have had my medical records sent to the fertility clinic and the next step is a phone consult with the RE (reproductive endocrinologist) on Monday and then a crazy test to make sure I am not certifiably insane (the jury is still out on this one.) After that, there will be a ton of screening and rather unpleasant testing, but rest assured, I will share it all with you guys so you can enjoy it too. 🙂

Well, that is pretty much it for my big update. Now you know what I have been up to for the last few weeks. This is one oven I know how to use properly. I am a regular baby chef! I hope you will enjoy following me in this chapter of my life.

 Want to read more about surrogacy from someone who has been there and done that? Check out my friend Rhea from Mommy23monkeys who wrote an Introduction to Surrogacy. She is my inspiration and has delivered surrogate triplets and a single little guy for two separate families!


  1. I think what your doing is great! I personally could never do it because I would be way too attatched. But I applaud the women like you that can do that and give that amazing gift to someone! Good luck to all of you!

  2. Kathleen, that is one of the sweetest, most selfless thing I think any woman can do for another woman.
    Good luck and God bless you for doing this. I cannot wait to hear all about it and follow you through this.
    Do you think you will be pregnant for the Disney conference??? How exciting.
    Crystal from Simply Being Mommy has also been a surrogate, such wonderful women I have become friends with. 🙂

  3. Thank-you ladies. You are all very sweet!

    Lorie, I may be cycling by the time the Disney conference rolls around, but it is unlikely that I will have transferred by then. Hopefully by April though!

  4. Ladies, I am not amazing. It is just a way to give back. Trust me, there are plenty of other incredible ladies who are doing and have done the exact same thing.

    I just posted this because I am excited about this chapter of my life and being able to do share it with all of you. Thank-you for your kind words!

  5. Wow you two are amazing. I would get so attached so I dont think this would work for me. Cant wait to hear the updates.

  6. That is so awesome, what a wonderful thing you're doing! It'll be great to read about your journey.

  7. I knew you were a generous person just by how helpful you were to me on twitter, but I only knew the tip of the iceberg! What an awesome way to give back.

    Curious to hear more about how this works.

  8. Wow! What an amazing gift you are to these parents-to-be! I have goosebumps thinking about it. I wish it had been more acceptable back when I was having kids….I so would have considered it as well.

    You're amazing

  9. How did I miss this?! Wow, just wow. This is an amazing sacrifice and for people you don't really know. I'm glad everything is going well for you so far 🙂

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