If you are visiting this post for the first time, let me apologize. I have had to since completely rewrite this post after finding out that there was a video to go along with the original article that I read. After watching the video, I absolutely understand why Jessica Beagley was arrested and I agree that she should have been. I could not leave my original post in the same format it originally was, but wanted to leave an explanation as to why for those who may be revisiting this morning. The video can be seen here if you want to see it, but it is disturbing.
The article I read this morning was about an Alaskan woman Jessica Beagley, who adopted a Russian orphan. She used hot sauce in his mouth when he was lying and did not let him spit it out for a minute. She also put her son in a cold shower to punish him. Originally after reading the article this morning, I though that it was crazy for this woman to have been arrested for child abuse. I know that my mom used to put soap in my mouth and hot sauce is an everyday condiment, so I thought nothing of it. However, I have since watched the video that a reader brought to my attention and it made me ill. The little boy did not argue, was not throwing a tantrum etc like it has been made to sound in the article. He was sorry for his actions and yes he had been bad in school, but she put hot sauce in his mouth for a very long time and then put him in a cold shower on top of that. She also screamed at him constantly and never once showed love while handing out the consequences.
While Jessica Beagley was clearly wrong, something that the defense attorney William Ingaldson wrote is what sparked the title and original theme of this post this morning. He said that according to the city’s ordinance, a parent could be arrested and convicted if a jury felt they had even placed their child in time out too long. Since when it timeout not acceptable. I know that I have sent my older boys to their room for the rest of the day for excessive arguing and talking back. In their rooms, not in a cage and I did not withhold food, drink or bathroom privelages. Since when it time out bad? I think there is too much judging that goes on, because of things that are seen like in the Beagley video. I know that I have gotten evil looks when correcting my children in public with words only and I do not mean screaming at the top of my lungs, but a simple correction.
What is safe anymore? How do we give our children consequences so that they grow up to be respectable adults and not serial killers? Everyone complains about how children these days have no respect, manners or work ethic. I wonder why? Although I do feel that this woman was wrong according to the clip that a reader brought to my attention that has caused me to amend this post, I do still believe that there are not clearly defined laws for parents to follow and this leaves room for subjectiveness that allows others to think you should never even talk loudly to your kids or send them to time out. I stand by the original theme of this article, but can no longer stand by this woman’s actions.