The potty training years were hell and those few times I had to clean poop off the wall and the white crib were not exactly fond memories, but I wouldn’t consider that the hardest part of parenting. I think everyone has a different idea of what the hardest part of parenting is and I was curious so I thought, why not ask my readers in a post?
Mommy guilt is a hard part of parenting for me. Every time they have a bad day or do not excel at something, I somehow feel responsible. I live in fear that they will grow up and not have fond memories of being a child. I strive each day to give them the best life possible, but the guilt still comes. Joshua has ADHD and ODD and I feel responsible everyday that it is somehow my fault. The same with Jordan who has a learning disability. Is there something I could have done different while pregnant or while they were young. The fact that everyone from school teachers to your next door neighbor judges you as a parent doesn’t help the guilt any either, but even the guilt isn’t the hardest part of being a parent for me.
For me, the hardest part of being a parent is watching them grow up. For the last 11 years, parenting has been my life. I did work when my oldest three were little because I had no choice, but I still lived for those moments of mothering them. My youngest will be 6 this year though and he will leave for school in just a few short weeks. This, letting him go, is the hardest thing I have ever done. Knowing that he is my last little one tears at my heart almost daily. I am content in the fact that I will be helping others to start their family, but it does not make it easier to watch my own grow up. Everyone says how you will wish for them to grow up and that day may come as they roll into the teenage years, but for now I am grieving the loss of my babies as they become big boys and no longer need me as much as the once did.
That is the hardest part of parenting for me. What is yours?